Do you need to assist family financially when you are not stable?

[King Belieal]

It is a thing of intense pity when your family still has a need for financial assistance from you and you yourself is not financially stable. How do you manage such a situation? Do you still have to assist family financially when you are not financially stable?

 

[Suba]

I never give financial assistance to my siblings, because their finances are above mine, even some of my siblings offer assistance or provide capital loans without interest, so I only need to give gifts to my parents.

 

[pousinha]

Dear friends, such a mishap is very common in the south of the world, in the third world. I have seen such a mishap in my new country since my husband and I were still dating. A friend of mine in Nigeria told he can't escape poverty because there is always someone to financially help (not necessarily family members, but even friends, as it happens in my country and the rest of Latin America). A close friend of mine of Argentina told me her grandfather was failing to purchase food for his family because there were friends in need, etc., etc., etc...

 

[eLdavis]

The only advice I can give is know your limit, do whatever ever you can, but at the same time know your limit and focus on growing yourself.

 

[pousinha]

These were some of the advices in my former culture:
-if you have to choose between paying to go to the cinema and helping a family member or friend who is really in need, choose the second option
-instead of purchasing expensive clothes, choose cheap ones. The rest of the money serves to save and to help others also
-get rid of futilities and save that money for your rainy days and helping others in need
But failing to purchase food and drugs for one's family to financially assist other means to go beyond one's limits.

 

[King Belieal]

I think it is better to ignore those family members and focus on building your wealth to stand in a position that you can fully help them without getting broke.

 

[Springtime]

If my family members need financial help, I'll try my best, within my ability.

 

[kerryjoy]

You give what you have, when you don't have, what can you give, but all in all, putting effort to help them is good but not in extreme that affects you

 

[Xtynehappy]

For instance if you have a family you have to provide for it be it you are financial stable or not.

 

[Augusta]

There's no stable time to assist the family just do what you can at any point in Time

 

[pousinha]

For instance if you have a family you have to provide for it be it you are financial stable or not.

It depends what we mean, talking about family: spouse and children, parents, siblings, in-laws or relatives? All of them are family members, but as our specific duty is to provide for children and spouse whatever our condition. Now, if we have siblings and they are perfectly able to get a job or our parents are perfectly able to support them, if we aren't stable, it's not that big deal if we become the breadwinners (less than in specific circumstances). It's not that big deal, especially if we have a spouse and children, when we aren't stable but we share a small salary with siblings, uncles, aunts, in-laws and the consequence is our children must stop to go to school because they need to bring a salary at home even during childhood cause parenthood (what happened during my grandparent's times). In such a case, I think it's important to search for whatever else source of finance, first than falling into such a spiral of destitution.

 

[eLdavis]

If my family members need financial help, I'll try my best, within my ability.

That's it, it has to be within your ability. You can't kill yourself over it, you still need to be able to build your wealth to be able to help them better.

 

[Xtynehappy]

In as much as l have a family to look at, l really have no option but to provide for them whether l am financial stable or not

 

[Trush Jodie]

Just try the little you can to help family but never attempt to overdo unless you would stay broke for a long time, if not forever.