I think there are ways the non-financially

[Tobi]

If you're paying the bills, and someone else isn't. I think there are ways the non-financially contributing partner can contribute to the functions of the household. But, honestly, it should be because they want to. Not because you want them to. Or because they feel obligated. I believe that's what you're really upset about. I can't blame you. It's difficult to do it all yourself. Not only financially, but physically and mentally when one person does most or all of it. Then the other doesn't even see it. It hurts. Like a slap across the face.

 

[gwolf666]

I think you're absolutely right that contributing to a household doesn't always have to be solely financial. Everyone contributes in different ways, whether it's by caring for the children, doing housework, or simply providing emotional support. The important thing is that this desire to help is genuine and not forced, because otherwise it can breed resentment and deep wounds. It's very difficult for the person who takes on most of the responsibilities to feel they aren't receiving the same recognition or dedication from their partner. The feeling that their effort isn't valued can feel like a low blow, as you say, a slap in the face. I believe that in any relationship, empathy and open communication are fundamental to understanding each other's needs and feelings. Equality in effort and mutual recognition are essential for maintaining a healthy and balanced relationship.