Money can make us happy when it purchases our marriage...

[pousinha]

Don't worry: I'm not aiming to create misunderstandings. In this context, the verb to purchase wants to mean to pay for the bureaucratic and expensive paperwork involving a request of marriage. Not to purchase the love of the spouse we'd like to have (this is impossible, as money can't buy love). Imagine your beloved boyfriend or girlfriend lives in a country far from yours. The City Hall, depending on the country where you live, could ask for additional paperwork, as a statement or clearance from the Embassy. And it costs a travel to get to the Embassy and the statement fee. Sometimes, the Embassy lasts several months to prepare the statement, so your boyfriend or girlfriend must return to his/her country before his/her VISA expires (or he/she'll become an illegal migrant). To return to your country at the proper time to marry you. And it costs money. Also remembering your boyfriend or girlfriend can't legally work in your country until getting the regular residence after marriage. Moral of the story: if both of you are poor, your marriage dream can become quite an ordeal, if you are dating a foreigner. Moral of the story: I can't stand the philosophy claiming that money can't make us happy. It really sounds too politically correct. It should be said: money isn't the one and only existing medium to reach happiness. Such a statement sounds more consistent and correct. The truth is, we should love God above money, meanwhile remembering people can't live as penniless until staying in this sinful world.

 

[Starmix]

It happens anywhere in the world. There are cross-cultural marriages this time and I experienced it when I met a Filipino Doctor in a Dating site. He worked in Las Vegas and was the president of the hospital owned by the government. He is a very good Filipino doctor and we loved each other through a long-distance relationship. He filed a fiancée visa but it was denied by the embassy. The embassy messaged me that my ex was not legally divorced . I planned to go there to meet him personally but the pandemic barred me from going.

 

[pousinha]

Not legally divorced? Does it mean he could be still married? Be careful, friend, to not bump into a trap...
In any way, if he is from Philippines, why did he need a VISA to return to his own country?

 

[Augusta]

With the way the world is been run now we just have to know that we need money almost all the time for everything

 

[King Belieal]

When you have money, the process of marriage becomes quite easy for you. You can easily meet documentation.

 

[eLdavis]

There are a lot of persons today who wants to get married but have not been able to because of money. Once here is money, a lot of things will become easier.

 

[pousinha]

When you have money, the process of marriage becomes quite easy for you. You can easily meet documentation.

Yes, documents can become very, very expensive. Especially in the case of a foreigner who must travel abroad (between his/her country and the boyfriend/girlfriend country) twice per year to get the right documents in this or that Municipality, Embassy, police station (and travels cost, especially intercontinental travels). Being careful to not overcome the tourist VISA expiring date or you'll become an illegal migrant. If my parents wouldn't have been a middle-class family, I probably couldn't have married to my husband, because out of the documents, it cost me various flights between Europe and Latin America. Considering, also, if it were the other way round (my boyfriend travelling and not me), it would have cost ten times more (for a foreigner, it became a terrible mess to marry in my former country since the year 2005 or 2008, cause the new marriage laws involving migrants out of the Schengen area ).

 

[Augusta]

Yes we need money to get things done thafs just the truth. no need to deceive ourselves about this

 

[pousinha]

Yes we need money to get things done thafs just the truth. no need to deceive ourselves about this

Pride and prejudice (from aunt Jane) teaches ...the Bennet sisters couldn't marry a poor because their upper middle-class lifestyle and spending power would have been dramatically reduced (and they weren't accustomed at all to live the same life of their servants, as during all their life they never put a single finger in the kitchen nor in the cleaning stuff).

 

[Augusta]

Yes somehow even some marriages come at a price. You can't afford to marry someone because of your low income.

 

[pousinha]

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who can't even afford a low cost marriage with a fellow citizen, as they can't leave their parent's house cause they lack an employment and consequently, lack of a salary.

 

[magnus2022]

In the present time, people marriage not for love but for stability and comfort. Most ladies don't marry their first love. Women marry who is ready and can be able to take responsibility as a man. I don't know of other societies but this is how it is here.

 

[pousinha]

Not only in the present time. The history teaches us that during the ancient time, the middle age and more or less until the XVIII or XIX century it mostly worked so. Not only from the ladies' side, but the gentlemen's side also. Pride and prejudice teaches ...

 

[Fidelia]

I just know that I would only spend money to secure basic expenses for my marriage. I don't want financial stress because of just marriage.

 

[pousinha]

Unfortunately, especially among certain countries where the marriage laws with foreigners are very strict (like my former country), yes, your marriage can become very stressful (in addition to the higher expenses if your future spouse doesn't come from a Schengen country, there's a shameful bureaucracy to cope with). In any way, if you are sure you have met the right one, it's very pitiful to get rid of the marriage cause bureaucracy and the higher expenses (you can save on the party, choosing to marry in the Municipality Office only).