The very same situation. Even my own wedding was very simple: we only went to the Major House and after celebrating the wedding, we went to my mother-in-law house (we lived with her along a good time) where we had lunch with the strict relative and that's was all. My only expense was the flight ticket, as we are from different continents.
It was so good of you and your hubby for deciding not to have a lavished wedding. What is important is, it was made successful and wedding was made legal. A lavished wedding could happen to those who have huge savings and are well off.
That's cool though. Most people tend to think a wedding is not one unless they do it in a grand style. Hence some end up going into debts just cause of a wedding.
Yes, dear friends: it's the couple that makes the wedding, not the lavished party. My marriage is happy in spite of different cultures and now we are going to our 15th anniversary. Very better a discreet happy wedding that a lavished one that becomes a harbinger of despair cause overwhelmed by debts.
Some marriages went wrong because of huge debt incurred during their wedding. The couple kept on quarreling. It is not good to spend much for the mouths of the visitors who will never help the newlyweds to pay the loans. Practicability is very important.
The lovers must be smart, they must not listen to the demands of their parents to have a lavish wedding for the sake of their pride. They will not help the couple pay their debts. Those who attended the wedding with full stomachs and no gifts for the newly married will never care to help them pay their debts.Yes, dear friend, unfortunateIy I can confirm debts are harbinger of quarreling (but in general, jeopardised finances too, whether caused by a lavished party, whether caused by incautious hasty marriage, for ex. when both people are unemployed and no member family can help them because both families live in destitute circumstances, but they don't wait to get a job: I see lot of this in my country). Two couples of friends of us divorced and the main reason was cause debts and broken finances
Your friend miscalculated the effects of his actions. It's his pride that dominated his feeling and thinking the best option wasn't part of his instant plan. He may spend years paying his bank loans.
He can't have a child yet because if he tries it, his financial woes would be multiplied. For now, he is just paying back the loans taken for the wedding. After that, he would think of having kids.
Having a kid means calvary because the wife alone once gets pregnant needs to see a doctor for a monthly check-up, for vitamins, and baby's needs and once the baby is born another money is needed not small money but big.
To get wed this time is very expensive. You have to please people attending your once inna life wedding but after the wedding you'll be burdened with huge debt. Many prefer to living together under one roof which is cheap and immoral.
