You are right. I'm so sorry you met a so futile people.The person that would marry me would learn modesty. So far, many ladies have ran away because I told them I am not doing any huge wedding. No social media vibes. Just a wedding that would involve close family members and friends. I can't spend my life savings on wedding.
Unfortunately, in the western countries it became the common way of living, but the point is average people are so scared by debts and the requirements of the laws that regulate the marriage at the point they by far prefer to live together under one roof.To get wed this time is very expensive. You have to please people attending your once inna life wedding but after the wedding you'll be burdened with huge debt. Many prefer to living together under one roof which is cheap and immoral.