People from financially disadvantaged families should marry from wealthy homes. True or False?

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I saw a podcast that said that people from families that are not well to do financially need to marry from wealthy homes to balance the equation. I might tend to agree to that.

What do you think about that postulation?
 
I think marriage is not about buying and selling. You need to have a love relationship. While someone from a poor family may want to marry into a rich family. Member of the rich family may not always want to marry someone from a poor family.
 
Although there is nothing wrong with poor people marrying rich people, there will be inequality after living together, the poor will always be looked down upon by the rich family, husband and wife need a balance in terms of quality of education, wealth so that they will be equal. So I do not agree with the postulate above.
 
This would have made things a lot easier, but at the end of the day, this is not what marriage should be based on. And there is no guarantee they would get married.
 
I saw a podcast that said that people from families that are not well to do financially need to marry from wealthy homes to balance the equation. I might tend to agree to that.

What do you think about that postulation?
Marriage is not a business transaction! Marriage should be based on love and mutual understanding and respect. Therefore, the postulation is meaningless and have no place in marriage relationship.
 
the poor will always be looked down upon by the rich family
When I was a youngster, I was nestled in a middle-class family and never, never, never had the desire to marry a rich man, exactly cause such a mishap. A cousin of mine did, but riches absolutely weren't her aim. They knew each-other cause job's purposes and he freely chose my cousin, despite his family was against that marriage (my cousin was a low-middle-class woman because my aunt's family is big and in the beginning was counting only on my uncle's salary). My cousin owns a superior education, but unfortunately her degree wasn't enough for her husband's family to compensate the financial gap. In any way, my cousin wasn't a true poor, but his family considered her as a poor (despite low-middle-class doesn't mean poverty). Cause in my opinion we never marry a single person, but we marry his/her whole family too, I would never have been glad to bump into such a mishap. And I preferred by far to marry a man belonging to a poor family, financially very much lower than mine. In any way, these aren't advices: I only acted according to my opinion.
 
I don't know whether marrying from a rich home is gold digging but I sure know that poverty can be very infectious. And I won't marry from a poor background.
 
The most important thing is that there should be love and mutual respect between the two persons getting married irrespective of their social backgrounds.
 
I don't know whether marrying from a rich home is gold digging but I sure know that poverty can be very infectious.
Such a mishap happens when the spouse coming from the impoverished background expects his/her partner to sustain his/her siblings, nephews, nieces, maybe parents also. Worse, to sustain all his/her social environment. It happened to The White Massai (the movie is based on a sad true story). A woman from Switzerland married a very poor Kenyan, coming from a very poor village. Apart from the very different cultural background, many mishaps came when he expected her to sustain his entire village, believing she should take as much money as she wanted from the Swiss bank. Obviously, the business she had opened, in addition considering the corruption of a local policeman who kept on blackmailing the village, ended up in failure. When she returned to Switzerland with her daughter, her finance and Swiss account resulted broken.
 
In the case of that Swiss woman's in-law it wasn't that easy: an African remote village in the bush during the eighties and nineties, no schools at all. No hospital too. No electricity and no tap water. Houses made of cow manure. A village where women could be only housewives while men looked after cows and goats. Not that big deal for a woman coming from one of the most developed country in the world. Obviously, the people in the village (including her husband) believed she was a walking ATM...
 
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