What do you do when you discover that your spouse hides a part of their monthly income?

[Trush Jodie]

How would you manage a situation where you bare your total financial life to your spouse, but you come to discover that your spouse is hiding a part of his or her monthly income? How would you handle such a situation?

 

[Springtime]

Actually, here, it's not uncommon for a wife or husband to save part of his/her earnings without letting the partner knows. The husband or wife usually have a private personal account in addition to the joint account for the couple.

 

[Kross]

If I am bringing everything to the family and she hides a part of her income, I would walk out of the relationship.

 

[eLdavis]

Before taking any action i think it would be best to first find out why they hid some part of their earnings.

 

[Augusta]

I would feel bad but I would still talk to my partner at a time where they feel safe. to know why

 

[Fire&Rain]

Discovering that would be betrayal. having secrets in a marriage or a relationship is not a good sign.

 

[King Belieal]

For me, I would just quietly start holding back my own finances too. I would never confront her on that.

 

[Nomad]

It does not matter to me much because they must have good reasons to do so. A lot of people do this to build savings.

 

[Fidelia]

I would ask him why he had to hide funds. And if he doesn't have a reasonable excuse, I would apply for divorce.

 

[Suba]

I don't think it's a big problem, as long as the couple uses the hidden money/income for good things like buying gasoline, negotiation fees with clients, investing, etc. So I think the couple should also hold the money, not all income should be given to the wife and every time she goes to work she asks for pocket money like elementary school children

 

[freelancermaria]

I’ll discuss this with my spouse to understand why he hides part of his income. What is it for? If it’s for something good or beneficial, then I’m okay with it.

 

[Tray59]

I don't think it's a big problem, as long as the couple uses the hidden money/income for good things like buying gasoline, negotiation fees with clients, investing, etc. So I think the couple should also hold the money, not all income should be given to the wife and every time she goes to work she asks for pocket money like elementary school children

Check your write up,if he hide part of the salary I believe that he is not going to use the money for something beneficial to you,the problem is for me once I know how much you earn I will never be concern were you kept it but I must know how you spend it

 

[Suba]

Check your write up,if he hide part of the salary I believe that he is not going to use the money for something beneficial to you,the problem is for me once I know how much you earn I will never be concern were you kept it but I must know how you spend it

Salary cannot be hidden because there is a salary slip/proof of receipt or proof of bank transfer, but usually the husband will get other income from the remaining travel money, commissions and small bonuses, etc., especially if he also works freelance like writing on the DBucks forum or becoming a crypto trader, etc.

 

[Fidelia]

It is a betrayal of trust for a spouse not to let the other spouse know every money that comes into their lives. I would tell my partner every amount I earn.

 

[pousinha]

Before taking any action i think it would be best to first find out why they hid some part of their earnings.

Sure. In such a case, let me play the devil's advocate : imagine you have a lavisher spouse, at the point to risk the couple's financial future. You won't live on charity during all your third and fourth-age, right? So hiding some earnings to invest instead of lavishing becomes essential...

 

[Min George]

I don't even bother about what my wife does with her money. That's how I was raised. I would just provide for my family. A woman can spend her money anyhow she likes.

 

[eLdavis]

Sure. In such a case, let me play the devil's advocate : imagine you have a lavisher spouse, at the point to risk the couple's financial future. You won't live on charity during all your third and fourth-age, right? So hiding some earnings to invest instead of lavishing becomes essential...

Yes i would definitely do that as well, no one wants to suffer during their old age though haha

 

[Sanjeev]

My wife does it and use that saving when we requires money so I never mind it.

 

[pousinha]

My wife does it and use that saving when we requires money so I never mind it.

Well, I understand she hides money to save, in order to spend savings only during rainy days. That's right. Nobody should spend at the point of becoming penniless during rainy days...

 

[Augusta]

The best thing you can do is bring your concerns to your spouse and you both would discuss about it.